Enough is Enough!

Man, I don’t want to say I regret getting married, but enough is enough!

It is always something with my husband, always some issue and it peeves me off! Especially when I don’t see him taking the proper action needed to fix the situation:

Example #1: We had our first apartment together in July which only included water and sewer. My husband got the electric and heat turned on in his name and come to find out there’s a $400+ bill in his name that he knows nothing about. Mind you this is the first apartment my husband has ever had in Ohio ever. When he finds out the address of this alleged bill, it’s an address where his mother resided while he was living with his grandmother until he went to the navy. His mother fraudulently used his name and social security number to get the heat turned on, then to add insult to injury she leaves an outstanding balance. SMH. I told him he needed to sue her for the balance, of course he did nothing, but question her about it and her response was a nonchalant answer followed by trying to put him on the guilt trip of how much she claims she sacrificed for him.

Example #2: Our phone gets cut off after having phone service for about 6 months now with AT&T. Prior to our service being shut off we received a phone call notifying him of fraud. Instead of listening to the message he hangs up. I told him he should have listened to the message, but he didn’t really care what the message was about. This was a few weeks ago. So now our phone is off even after paying the bill in advance and when he calls he is told that someone called in and tried to open an account in his name and he has to send in proof of his identity before service will be restored. Mind you, we found out his mothers phone was off a few weeks ago as well. So hmmm… I wonder who the culprit could be? I told him again that he needed to sue her and also report her to the FCC and make a police report. Enough is enough. Soon he won’t be able to do anything thanks to her. It is unfair that we have to be phoneless, because of her selfish ways. What if something happened and we needed to call someone for help?

Example #3 My husband is on the phone with his dad and we just got done discussing how our income tax was seized because of him failing to file W2’s a few years ago. I am the only one with children and I stupidly filed jointly with him causing all my childrens money to be taken. Our income tax was $8501 and now it’s reduce to about $900. WTF? I was planning on furnishing the house with the money, so off course I am angry. I had to send in an injured spouse form which will take 8 weeks to process – with just a chance that I’d get my children’s money back. So I’m discussing this with him and he gets off the phone to finish the discussion, he then calls his dad back just to have him talk about me like a dog. My husband didn’t even defend me at all. I heard his dad asking him if I was ever planning on getting a job. My husband plays stupid answering in a reluctant tone “I really don’t even know dad.” – Wait? Is this the same person that begged me to quit my job last year and told me to stay at home with the kids, while he works, or is this person a fucking clone? Did I miss something? Then I hear his dad talking about love only goes so far, and we will eventually end up divorcing because of money issues, and asking him do he really want to be with someone that is going to hold him back? Once I heard that I got up with the reply “WOW” and went into my room slamming the door. Not one time did he defend me at all. Not once! Instead he played stupid, like he’s the victim and I’m just this freeloader that is letting him take care of me while he’s just working himself to death. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing! This is the same person that I defended when my mother was saying all kinds of negative things about which led to getting into a physical altercation to the point where I had to leave and had no where to go, just because I loved him enough to defend his honor and what’s the thanks I get? To be dogged out and disrespected by his folks while he just sits there and takes it.

Then he plays stupid like he doesn’t know why I am angry and when I tell him, here comes all the sorry ass excuses! There is no excuse for that at all! He should have defended me. So yes, not only do I feel like crap, but I am starting to have regrets for this entire situation. Not only is there always some unknown issue biting us in the ass related to him, but even after I put up with all that bullshit, he can’t even defend me and I’m suppose to be his wife. The one that you forsake all others for.