The Bible Condemns Deadbeat’s
Thursday, December 17, 2009 · Add a Comment (3)I’ve always believed that when you get a woman pregnant whether you are married to them or not, that if you fail to provide for your child and/or children that God frowned upon you. I believe that it is a sin to do that, because it is clearly wrong. I never found any passages in the Bible on the subject of being a “deadbeat” until now:
If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
1 Timonthy 5:8
Now that I’ve read this, I know now that the father’s of my children will be judged and punished for their actions. It makes me feel better about the situation of my children when I see that even God acknowledges it. Even though I am now married and I have a man that helps me with my children, I still remember the years when I didn’t have anyone, but myself and my own family to lean on. While I was working hard to make a way for myself and children, dealing with low paying-high labor jobs, dealing with Children & Families Services, dealing with child support and not getting any help at all. They were and still are only worried about providing for themselves, doing what they want whenever they want, and having a wonderful time only worrying about themselves.
I can’t even ask my eldest son’s father for a dime. I have to be really desperate to ask him for anything but when I did contact him on Facebook he reads my message and never responds. I’ve sent him messages prior not even asking for money and he treats me and my son like we don’t even exist. He hasn’t seen my son for 5+ years and he won’t even acknowledge me, but proudly displays my sons name on his Facebook account like he’s such a great “dad”.
My youngest two father is so pathetic and it’s even shameful to think that I was with someone like him. He spends his time making Youtube video’s of skinny 18 year-old girls acting like groupies and whores. I think one of the girls are suppose to be his girlfriend. Mind you I am 26 years old, what do I look like hanging out with a bunch of 18 year old’s or having an 18 year old boyfriend? When I saw the videos I was ashamed and embarrassed to say the least. This is what I had children with and wasted 6+ years on? He claims he does all this for the boys but it doesn’t make sense. The boys will never benefit from it, only he is benefiting from entertaining his sick perversions for sex. It’s really sad and even though I will never regret having my children, I do regret having them with their father’s.
With all this said, I will never talk bad about their fathers to them. I believe that I really don’t have to say much because in the end actions speak louder than words, but with that said, this is exactly why Brian and I are preparing to have them adopted. Their father’s don’t care about their well-being, but my husband and I do and I believe adoption is the best option for them. We will no longer have to deal with child support, Supportkids, their father’s not providing for them, etc. Once my children and I are free of those deadbeats for good, it will be a day worth rejoicing.
Topics: Destin, Elijah, family, Jeremiah, Spirituality
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but anyway I hope you and your husband made up from the other night ..? And as far as your post today I feel really bad for what you’ve been through .. my mom was a single parent to us 4 kids and she hide her troubles well, never complained to us about our father and always had a good spirit, positive .. and did everything she could to give us what we wanted .. even if it was taking out student loans for christmas and etc .. but my sted dad adopted us and I haven’t seen my dad since I was 10 and im so happy I have a great new father, he’s a great grand dad as well. So im really also happy you have someone in your life like Brian because their aren’t that many guys at all who are willing to play the father role to their own kids let alone someone elses. You are really lucky 
I really wish you all the best of luck and I believe you are doing the right thing with “hiding” the real problems like my mother. I’m sure they won’t regret it!
I’m glad that you and Brian decided to make that decision. It’s definitely best for the boys. My son’s father helps me a lot but my daughter’s father seems to be too worried about me than our daughter so I had to make the choice to cut him off. Sometimes it’s best that the fathers are not around to keep the tension away. The father of your youngest two seems like a very disgusting and dishonorable man and I hope that he learns his lesson in life.
I didn’t even know that verse was in the Bible. I’m reassured that God is in favor of those that take care of their children and provide for them as they should. No one can fathom how hard it is to take care of children on their own. Guys don’t understand how they should be in their child’s life because there are things that a mother just can’t teach them. I can’t say that I won’t try because at this point, I don’t want anything to do with my son’s father.
You’re a strong woman. =)