samaraAs a married couple I always thought you’re suppose to work out your problems without bringing anyone outside your marriage into it unless it’s a marriage counselor whom you both will agree to share your business with. With that said I’m trying to understand why my husband has took it upon himself to leave and stay at his aunts.
Yesterday I cooked dinner and he came home and we ate together. The boys were at my Mom’s so we had a chance to spend time with each other. I wanted to watch Law and Order with him, but as soon as he finished his dinner he falls asleep. Now him falling asleep didn’t bother me, but the sound he makes when he sleeps is straight annoying.
The reason I am so annoyed by his snoring is because it keeps me up every night. I have to get up multiple times (at least 5 or more times) and ask him to stop snoring, or to roll over on his stomach. I have to say it several times, sometimes even shouting it and/or eventually physically turning him over on his stomach myself. There are times when I’ve even got up in the middle of the night and slept in the bed with Destin or Elijah because of how loud he is. I’ve even started staying up all night waiting until 5am(when he gets up to go to work) so I can go to sleep. I can even remember when he would wake up after my several attempts of trying to get him to stop and he’d just go back to sleep on his back snoring just as loud. Sometimes I think he hears me and just ignores me and claims he didn’t remember me shaking him or calling his name. I’ve even tried sleeping on the other end of the bed, blasting the fan on high to block out his snoring, and even using earplugs (which leaves my ears sweaty and irritated).
So yes, I was extremely annoyed by just the sound of his snoring.
I guess he could tell I was irritated and he kept asking me what’s wrong. I told him nothing over and over again and he kept asking so then I told him it was my lack of sleep due to his loud snoring. The next thing I know he’s on the phone calling his aunt up asking if he can go over there, packing his things, slamming doors, and yelling about how he’s not doing it on purpose, and how all he does is work and come home. I’m still trying to figure out what his job has to do with him keeping me up at night with his snoring. I also don’t understand why my husband is leaving our home to go to his aunts because I complained about his snoring? He claimed he’s going over there so I can get some sleep, but we are married. Why are you at your aunts? And he was so quick to leave. I don’t really think he wanted to be here no way. I’ve been putting up with not getting any sleep for months and I haven’t packed my things and went to my Mom’s house whom stays right up the hill from me because we are suppose to be married. What the hell are marriage vows in a marriage if you don’t honor them?
After all the extreme stuff he has went through in previous relationships he’s never left his home, but he leaves his wife whom cooks, cleans, is forever faithful, and honest just because I complained about his snoring. Tell me, is there something wrong with this picture?
Ummmm, ya, I had the same problem. I wouldn’t stand for it because I work 4 days a week and I need my sleep so I made him sleep on the couch. Do you have a spare bedroom? You or he could always sleep in another room.
I also would be trying to wake him up all night long, telling him to quit his snoring (I know, not like he can actually control it) or telling him to roll over. So annoying. Anyways, we tried sleeping with fans on, one blowing on his face to drown out his snoring. It worked for a while.
He recently had surgery on his nose to repaid his crushed sinus and deviated septums, almost two weeks ago. He is still swollen but the doctor said his snoring should be reduced by 90%. He also lost 15 pounds, and still losing and apparently that will help as well.
I hope it works out for you hun.
Sara
Thanks I never knew weight loss could help or even surgery. It would be nice to sleep without interruption for once. Fans and trying to wake him don’t really help at all.
hey there.
I totally know what you mean about the whole snoring situation. I have to find myself trying to fall asleep before my hubbie does or else i’ll be up all night like you have. I even get irritated when you know in the beginning of them falling asleep they have that soft snore? oh gosh, that bothers me to the CORE. But what can I do? I kick and shove him until he wakes up and moves his ass because I get so annoyed. Lucky you, you can at least sleep with your kids. Mines sleep with me. So, there is my daughter & my hubbie – dreadful evening of heavy snoring. Thankfully i’m no LIGHT sleeper so I just TRy and fall asleep and drown the noise and bam – i’m in lalaland before I know it.
I have always tried to NOT be apart of a problem when it comes to relationships of others because I figure they’re in it for the long haul – not me and them you know? My sister-in-law always comes to me for when she needs help with her marriage – and I don’t like that. But, she has no one to talk to but me for now. Aside from her parents. But it’s cool. I hope you and the hubbie are okay.
I think there is something completely wrong with this picture. I’m just a teenager and all but still I think something isn’t right.
Maybe there is something more…but umm if this was such a problem and he wanted to allow you to get more sleep, couldn’t he have slept in another room or on the couch maybe instead of packing up his stuff to go and stay at his aunt’s?
Exactly!
I don’t really have that snoring problem however I heard that those breathe right nasal strips that goes on the bridge of your nose while you sleep to reduce snoring, prevents stuffy nose & etc .. works good .. or atleast I hear that it did. You can get a 30pk for $10.99 and i’ve seen nothing but good reviews so far ..
We tried that too. Those don’t work because most people that snore, it’s caused by the jaw falling back on the throat while their on their back. That’s why when a person sleeps on their stomach it reduces the snoring by 90%… until they turn back on their back that is. Thanks anyways though
He should at least see a doctor to see what he can do to reduce his snoring and you’re right, those things need to be talked out. I could see if he just left to his aunts without being angry and strictly trying to have courtesy for you but there isn’t a need for him to leave like that.